The Sacred Dance of Venus and Mars

By Agent 36 Michele Finey

Mars and Venus currently tease each other in evening skies, moving closely together in Pisces, yet do not quite touch. Mars feels swamped whilst Venus is exalted. AT the end of Jan, Mars gets his mojo back as he moves to Aries to claim his pride as Venus follows him into Aries on Feb 4th, yet falls into detriment.
Yet, they still don’t touch, but get within 5° of each other, as Venus begins to slow for her coming retrograde and Mars moves on. It’s like unrequited love, where the passion and the yearning don’t quite get it on. Close, but, not exact.!
A cosmic tease, and a taste of what’s to come, maybe?
Arghh such is the drama in the heavens, Mars and Venus won’t hook up to be exact until the 5th October 2017 as morning stars at 19° Virgo, and then again not till 2019, and 2021!.


Coming exact Venus and Mars conjunctions-

Oct 5th/6th  2017-  19° Virgo, visible as morning Stars

August 24/25th 2019 –  4° 07′ Virgo – Conjunct Sun, not visible,
Venus just past superior conjunction, soon to become an evening star.
Mars begining a new cycle with the Sun, becoming a morning Star after Sept 5th.
Both Mars and Venus moving at their fastest speed.

13th July 2021- 19° Leo – both evening Stars
(addendum, Agent 12 Julija)

The heavenly dance of Venus and Mars mirrors the nature of personal relationships.  Mars must venture out into the world on his hero’s quest alone, and Venus cannot go where Mars goes, she must stay within 48 degrees of the Sun; just as traditionally men went out hunting or to work, and women stayed at home cooking, looking after the children, keeping the home fires burning.

But we all have a Venus and a Mars and we have evolved beyond these gender stereotypes.  Women have been actively using their Mars energy for decades and men are more in touch with their Venus energy, some choosing to be stay-at-home dads and taking on more domestic duties such as cooking, cleaning and caring.

The desire for self-expression, independence and autonomy (Mars) and the need for love and relationship (Venus) are not gender specific, but exist within every soul.

A closer examination of their celestial dance reveals more about the nature of relating.  For example, when Venus and Mars are conjunct, Mars is always in direct motion.  Mars is animated by Venus, but he can also be confused by her different faces and phases, for when they are conjunct Venus can be direct, retrograde or stationary.

When Venus and Mars oppose one another, Mars is almost always retrograde; if not then he is virtually stationary.  The closer Venus is to the Sun, the more deeply retrograde is Mars.

When Mars opposes the Sun, he is full of light, but retrograde and closest to the Earth. This is Venus’ natural position, for she is the closest body to Earth.

At this point in his solar cycle Mars feels weakened from his journey and his separation from both the Sun (father) and Venus (lover). He is alone. At this point he undergoes the supreme ordeal in his hero’s quest.

Though Mars may feel tired and weak from his struggle, Venus sees his vulnerability and pain but also sees him as radiant, as her knight in shining armour.

At solar opposition, Mars begins his journey back to the Sun, like Jason who returned to claim his birthright as true King, and it is with the help of the love goddess that he will again claim his solar kingdom.

When they oppose one another and Venus is at her greatest elongation and the morning star, Mars is close to stationary direct. Her beauty, youth and freshness invigorate him and guide him on the return home. She acts as his guide, or lover, his muse, and/or healer.

When Venus is the evening star and they oppose at her greatest elongation, Mars stations retrograde. At this point Venus is older and wiser, she knows she must soon let him go to venture once more out into the world on a new quest.

Although technically Venus can be retrograde when she opposes Mars, Venus is almost always in direct motion at this point in their cycle. In this position they see each other clearly and fully, their love reflected in each other’s radiance which may be why this aspect in synastry is considered to be one of the most, if not the most passionate of combinations. Each can identify with the other as they face one another, fully conscious.

The mythic story of their illicit affair mirrors their dance in the heavens too. Sol was the first to see the secret lovers. Venus, though married to Vulcan, the clever, but lame god, who had been rejected by his mother, had numerous lovers, and with Mars Venus had five children.

Vulcan is akin to Mars when he is in opposition to the Sun and/or Venus. He is weak, wounded and lonely, yet has mastered many skills.

Mars, Venus’s lover is by comparison rather brutish, immature and primitive. He never marries and ends up being rejected by his parents too, while Vulcan is restored to their favour.

Conjunctions and oppositions of Venus and Mars show the way in which the lovers interact and which of their many male and female faces they show to one another.


When Venus and Mars unite, their conjunction symbolises the beginning of a new cycle, signalling a time when new relationships are often established.

As she couples with Mars, it is important to note just where this conjunction is taking place in relation to one’s natal chart. Venus and Mars returns also signal that Cupid’s arrow is about to strike.

Regardless of our gender, sexual orientation, and even the natal position and condition of Venus in our birth charts, these cosmic messages of love infuse the ether with Venusian sensuality and Mars passion.

By examining their motion in the sky we can learn how relationships work.

Their cosmic union enhances our capacity to break through our isolation and establish heart connections.

Love can come suddenly. We may have known a person for years, or only moments when we are struck by Eros’ arrow and fall in love. In an instant our everyday lives are scintillatingly transformed.

Venus makes Mars’ quest worthwhile and valuable. Love infuses his deeds and actions with meaning. But she cannot go where Mars goes, he must act alone. Though parting is sweet sorrow, absence does make the heart grow fonder. This is the push-pull of their cosmic dance.

While men may generally identify more readily with Mars, and women with Venus, both sexes use and express their Mars and Venus. They join together, they separate and come back together, back and forth ebbing and flowing with the cosmic tide as when two souls find one another and connect and we see the beauty of our own soul reflected back to us in the face of our lover.


Venus retrogrades once every 19 months. During her 584-day synodic cycle (interval between successive inferior conjunctions with the Sun) she spends about 40-42 days retrograde, the least of any planet. During this time she withdraws from others in order to assess and evaluate her experiences and reconnect with her intrinsic standards of beauty and love.

Venus stations retrograde when she is the evening star during the waning part of her cycle. She turns retrograde when about 30 degrees occidental to the Sun.

When Venus is retrograde, professional, family, group and personal connections often come under scrutiny. Once assessed and evaluated, some of these associations may end.

At inferior conjunction Venus sets down a new set of criteria, establishes new benchmarks and reunites with her essence; her innate sense of what is worthwhile and beautiful.

Usually Venus moves faster than the Sun, but after her retrograde period it takes a couple of months for her to get up to speed. After becoming the morning star she waxes in light and gradually becomes ready to establish new relationships.

Meanwhile Mars goes about his independent business but when he enters the Venus zone, when he semi-squares the Sun, he is ready to get up close and personal with the love goddess.  This occurs when Mars is returning from his heroic adventures, at the end of his cycle.  Venus may or may not be waiting for him, however.  She may be in the morning sky at that point in his cycle, in which case Mars will have to wait a bit longer before he can be reunited with his love.


Mars is considered to be the planet of desire and sexuality, but Venus is equally sexual, after all, she was born in the foaming sea from the castrated genitals of the creative sky-god Uranus. The word ‘aphrodisiac’ is derived from Aphrodite.

In synastry, aspects between Venus and Mars describe the chemistry and sexual compatibility of partners.

All aspects – the conjunctions, sextiles, trines, squares and oppositions – seem equally capable of fuelling sexual chemistry and stimulating the senses, even the minor aspects add spark and passion.

Venus-Mars oppositions are perhaps the most sexually dynamic and magnetic of all the aspects between the cosmic lovers. In heterosexual unions, an opposition between a man’s Mars and a woman’s Venus is thought to be the most electric and passionate of all.

Opposites, they say, ‘attract’, but there also needs to be common ground for a relationship to be sustained.  Equally, too many similarities and not enough differences can quickly lead to boredom and complacency.

In Venus/Mars oppositions, the two planets seem to mirror to one another these intrinsic similarities and differences, which helps keep the balance right.  Give and take, lead and follow, action and reaction seem to swing back and forth.

Sun and Moon links in synastry provide security, warmth, nurturing and familiarity, while Venus-Moon links heighten the romance, but it’s Venus and Mars who provide the passion.

Aspects from Venus to Venus and Mars to Mars also reveal the level of attraction and sexual chemistry between partners. Difficult aspects between them do not prevent a relationship from happening; indeed they create a dynamic tension which provides necessary stimulation and keeps things interesting. The lack of any aspect between Venus and Mars is perhaps more likely to result in a lack of desire or disinterest from one or both parties.

Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt for example, have Venus opposite Venus and Mars square Mars in their synastry.

Legendary lovers Lawrence Oliver and Vivien Leigh had Venus square Mars and Mars square Mars.

The Duke and Duchess of Windsor had only a tight semi-sextile between their natal Venus positions and yet their love was such that he abdicated his throne in order to marry her.

Humphrey Bogart’s Venus was semi-sextile Lauren Bacall’s Mars, while her Venus was quincunx his Mars.

There was a tight semi-square between Prince Charles’ Venus and Princess Diana’s Mars, while Charles and Camilla have their Venus degrees in square and her Mars trines his Venus.

Prince William and Kate Middleton have Mars conjunct Mars and her Venus trines his Mars.

Another couple whose marriage has spanned 70 years, is that of Gough and Margaret Whitlam. They have Mars conjunct Mars and Venus square Venus.

Children of Venus and Mars

Eros – God of Erotic Love and Passion

In one version of myth Eros was created at the same time as Aphrodite, in another he was the son of her union with Ares. Eros shot arrows of love at gods and mortals alike, making them fall in love. Eros pricked himself with his own arrow and fell in love with the mortal Psyche (Soul). Asteroid Eros.

Anteros – God of Requited Love and Reciprocal Love

Counterpart of Eros. Often seated opposite Eros on scales of love held by Aphrodite. Asteroid Anteros.

Phobos and Deimos – Gods of Fear and Terror

Twin brothers, Phobos and Deimos are associated with fear and loss, particularly the fear of union, and the loss of love.  The names of the two moons of Mars.

Harmonia – Goddess of Marital Harmony

The only daughter of Venus and Mars, Harmonia is the antithesis of Eris, the god of strife and discord.  She is the goddess of heavenly and marital harmony.  Asteroid Harmonia.

More on Venus and Mars by Michele  Here

by Michele Finey, Agent 36

Read -Michele’s book  The Sacred Dance of Venus and Mars- A beautiful book which for the first time explores the relationship between the cycles of Venus and Mars and their impact on our lives – especially where relationships are concerned. Michele Finey has thoroughly researched her subject, and using many case histories she shows how, although synastry is important, possibly of greater importance is the aspect between the two planets within their cycles because that can dictate the timing of key moments in a relationship. She shows how the degree of the original conjunction between the two planets (‘the degree of passion’), based on the time of birth can indicate the kind of the people we are attracted to and the course a romance can follow. A really absorbing book which will prompt hours of research!

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